To plan or not to plan?

Do you find ‘the new normal’ a blessing or a hindrance?

Have you found a lot of new ideas cropping up about how you’d like to change your life, but you’re not doing anything about it? 

Speak to me in a free initial 30 minute consultation and I can help you focus, get great ideas and come up with an action plan.  Find out your next steps with me.  Go to my contact page by clicking here at Contact , and let me know a little about your situation. Or you can ring me on 07985 959510 to set up an appointment.

(If viewing on a laptop there’s a quick form on the right hand side of this page to apply for a free 30 minute initial consultation)

Handy contact details : 07985 959510

Train spotter heaven or out of my comfort zone?

I was staying in a swanky part of London for a coaching course and I had a strange view out of my window.

It was a very unusual sight!

I live in the south west and do most of my face-to-face coaching in Clarence House, Penzance. Though l’ve also lived in Bristol and Devon and visit these places regularly (so can meet for consultations there too)

I was definitely ‘out of my comfort zone’ that weekend when l saw my London hotel room was right next to a railway line!

I had to ask to change rooms to make sure l could get to sleep.

The new room l had still has the slight rumble of the train and the humming sound of city life l’m used to from when l lived in Bristol (quite relaxing really), without the irritation of a train line being right underneath the hotel room.

  1. What would you do?

How to change your habits

Habits and changing  them

I have  noticed that with a lot of my clients, they come to see me about wanting  to  change certain  aspects  of  their lives ie in career, getting  most out of their time, improving  their  relationships.

This  got me to thinking  about  how habits come to  play  here.

I have  started to  research  this  fascinating  subject, to add to  my toolkit  l use within  the  coaching l do with my clients

So if you  are thinking  about  coming to  see a coach  about  any sort of  life change, have a  talk with  me about  your ideas

Back to school and work

Incredible Changes life coaching and mentoring in Dorset

Are you settling back to normal life after the summer holidays?

I have recently attended one of my usual business breakfast meetings and I think I’ve invented a new word in the process!

I was explaining how I was finding it quite difficult getting back into a working routine after the relaxing summer holidays .  You know the sort of thing – with the school holidays and the looking out for what your child/ children is/are doing , arranging events, parent taxi,  the family holiday, making preparations for school return, then … whoosh  getting back into a normal working and school routine.

I forgot to mention  the juggling of trying to work in the holidays as well.  Some of you may have  found it easier getting back  to normal working patterns!

Anyway, the word I invented was ‘summeritus’.  A succinct way of explaining what us parents may feel like getting back into the normal swing of things after the long summer holidays.

If you feel  you have new ideas about how you’d like to change the way you do things, either big or small, arrange a free 30 minute session with me where we can spend time talking about you, your life as it stands and your dreams.

Please seen my contact page if you’d like to write a little about your situation, or here are my details below:

My phone number is 07985 959510


Explaining life coaching

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I am preparing a presentation about what life coaching is all about for a Citizens Advice Cornwall coach training recruitment day this week. (A new project I’m involved with).

One of my slides says it succinctly:

  •   —Help you create a clear VISION of your  future
  • —  CLARIFY your goals
  • —  Overcome barriers to change
  • —  Recognise your STRENGTHS
  • —  Learn about yourself and what is important to you
  • —  Develop an Action Plan


So the order above is to have an idea, goal or vision of here you want to be (like the game of archery : be focused on your aim).   This can take some time – most people know what they don’t want (but this is a great start and with a skilled coach through their powerful questioning and listening techniques, it may only take one session to get you there!)

Secondly,  to clarify; to be crystal clear about exactly what it is you want to achieve.  This is where a coach can help .  It may be  your first idea is dismissed when you consider the benefits of other options.

Then the coach can help you to put into practice steps towards what you want to achieve, making sure you think about what obstacles may stand in y0ur way (time pressures, other peoples’ attitudes, even yourself!)

Along your coaching journey, you will be reminded of what it is you do really well – your strengths. It is this self- discovery of hidden confidence and ability you may have forgotten about, that gives you the strength to forge ahead with your new life – the life of your dreams!

Finally, as well as an Action Plan, so you know where you’re going, you’ll understand yourself a lot more (particularly with the use of DISC Personality and Values Tests). You will know why it is that you react a certain way under stress, what you need to have in your life to make you happy in your personal and work life, how to communicate more effectively to people who you previously found it challenging to get on with.

At the end of your coaching journey,  you’ll have a balanced life, with clear goals and a positive outlook.  Sounds like coaching can really benefit peoples’ lives!  I’ve certainly seen these changes with my clients.  See my testimonials.

Today 23 June. Coaching Clinic. Clarence House

A sudden change in my schedule, means l’ll be at Clarence House,  Penzance 3pm – 5pm for a coaching clinic.

Free consultations. Free mini DISC tests and discussion

FInd out how coaching can help you to change your life!

Do something diferent today.

Make that first step for change.

There’s an NLP saying, something like: ‘Do what you always do, get what you always get’


I guess l’m doing that today.

Please ring me to book a slot, email me, or just turn up.

It’ll be great to see you

07985 959510











Pamper Day at St Austell

I spent the day talking about life coaching and DISC Personality tests with members of the public at the MS Therapy centre’s Pamper Day.

There were lots of other treatments offered including massage, reflexology and homeopathy. Clients also had a glass of bubbly to make them feel even more relaxed!




New blog. Feeling pleased

When we don’t do something it is tempting to feel bad, guilty and ‘beat yourself up” over it.

I was feeling the same about not blogging as regularly as l wanted.  I had made my intention public, which is a similar thing to when someone has coaching and agrees to commiting to an action.

Along with my negative thoughts, l thought ‘coaching questions’ l’d ask clients about what’s standing in their way ?

I realised it was technology.

I needed to learn how to blog while on the move, rrather than on my laptop

So that is what l’m doing now on my smartphone.

Just press UPDATE and it’s done!

Will post photo later.










Second Coaching Cafe tonight (14 May 2015)



Tonight 14 May 2015 at 5.30pm – 7.30pm we have our second Coaching Cafe at Scarlet Wines, Restaurant, Deli & Cafe in Lelant (near St Ives).

Last month, the group of eight of us seemed to instantly connect and we talked generally about life issues, even offering support and advice when needed. We also spent around half an hour discussing the month’s film which was The Second Exotic Marigold Hotel (this brought up many issues like retirement, women and work to name just two!

Tonight, we will be catching up on our month’s achievements, have a general discussion and then discuss ‘film of the month’ – which was Woman In Gold, starring Helen Mirren.

I don’t know about you, but it’s always lovely to discuss a film, as some films have all sorts of themes in them. When you’re reading a book, or watching a film for a purpose, it makes the issues somehow come out at you more dramatically. I can’t wait for tonight to get the group together and maybe say hello to some new faces

If you’re interested in coming along contact me (Stacey Halfyard), Life Coach, via or 07985 959510